The world is so complex and ever-changing that when you face it you realize your problems recede into irrelevance, and I'm reminded again that these issues are my own and there's no issue of blame at all. The only pressing issue is what to do next. And the answer to that is to move on (i.e. study for tmrw's test). Basically I'm against whining to friends or family. Turn whining inwards. My new take on myself.